What My Daddy Did!

I remember listening for the jingle of my father's keys in the door. I would run and fling myself into his arms the moment he crossed the threshold. I was a daddy's girl... for the first five years of my life. Something really shifted by the time I was about 8 years old. I didn't know what, but I knew our relationship was different. What memories do you have of your father? How does your relationship with him impact the way you love and accept love today?

Me and My Money, Honey!

Did you know that you have a relationship with money? Well, take a moment to think about money and I bet you'll get all the feels. Yes, because we are taught overtly and covertly how to relate to money by the way we see the grown-ups around us relating to it. Join me and my guest, Lindsay Bryan-Podvin, as we explore your money story and how it is impacting the way you deal with money and make money decisions.

We Doin’ That Again?!

Have you been experiencing things in your relationship that seem familiar? As you see patterns that keep cropping up over the years you might be asking yourself, "We doin' that again?" Well, it's likely that you're sick and tired of getting what you've been getting, but don't know how to stop doing what you've been doing. In today's episode, Linnea Willis, LCPC, and I look at how negative couple cycles form, how they keep us looping things we don't want to embody relationally, and how to spot and cut them off.

I Can Do Bad By Myself

Have you ever been in a relationship and thought, "I can do bad all by myself? I don't need nobody's help!" This week on Black Girl, Love Well, I am talking to Joelle Hall-Parham, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, about looking out for warning signs that you may be in a relationship that is taking you down the wrong trajectory and how you can recalibrate.

There’s Gotta Be a Better Way!

Growing up in Southern, West Indian, Hispanic, Latina, or African homes often meant children were to be seen and not heard. Our parents instilled some amazing values in us and there were some missteps along the way. On today's episode, Lynnett Wesley and I are talking about parenting styles and how we can create emotionally healthy spaces for our children.

At the Intersection of Being Black and Being You

As women of color, we face tons of intersections, but how do they impact our ability to love and be loved well. Join me as we start our new series on relationships with others and how they are impacted by our intersections, trauma, experiences, families, and more.

Patterns Here, Patterns There, Patterns Everywhere

Sometimes we don't realize that our relationships have been on loop for years. Different partners, but the same outcomes. What patterns have you been seeing in your relationships? How much of that is attributable to how you show up and how much is how you think about yourself and others? If you're tired of living a loop, join me and my guest, Dionne Caldwell, LCSW-C, to discuss patterns and what change can look like.

Self-Sabotage

Ever find yourself standing still, not moving toward your goals, and wonder why? Why you can't just do it, like Nike says? What or who is in your way? In today's episode, Dr. Nancy Fleurencois and I discuss self-sabotage and tools that can help you get out of your own way!

I Got Trust Issues!

"I got trust issues." Do you find it hard to trust in relationships? Better yet, do you struggle with the decision of whether or not someone is trustworthy? Sometimes something happens that skews our perception of who we can trust... and sometimes the list of people we think we can't trust includes ourselves! Join me and my guest, Juliette Nelson, as we talk about trust issues and how we are impacted when our boundaries are overstepped.

Embracing You

As black and brown women, we see so much in media that sends us messages that something about us is not good enough. At work, your natural hair may not be "professional" or "polished" enough. Maybe the models on magazines got you feelin' like your body isn't whatever enough. Join me and my guest, Jewel Walwyn, as we talk about what it looks like to embrace all of you.

What She Said?!

You can’t do that. Maybe you aren’t enough. Why did they hire you? You know you don’t have the experience to lead this team. Why do you think he left? Why do you think they all left? It must be you. Sounds like some pretty negative things for someone to say to you. But what if that someone is you?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve definitely got a mean girl in my head. She tells me that I am not enough for whatever it is I am trying to do. Whether I am mothering my children, loving my husband, creating a program, launching a business, applying for a job, or making a new friend, she is there telling me it won’t work because there is a deficiency in me.

My daughter Miah and I talk about this in this episode, What She Said?! The Mean Girl in Your Head. I wanted to talk with someone from a generation behind mine so that we could examine whether the mean girl shows up differently for different generations.

She’s An Imposter

Have you ever had the feeling that you didn’t belong in a room to which you had been invited? Do you ever wonder what you are doing at influential tables, why you were hired, why so many people look to you? I don’t know about you, but I struggle with imposter syndrome.

What is imposter syndrome anyway? Landi-Jackson James, the latest guest on my podcast, defines Imposter Syndrome as the thought that I am undeserving of the place where I am right now or showing up differently than you actually are at your core to fit into a space. Sometimes it is momentary and sometimes we live with it on a consistent basis. Imposter syndrome is so common. You are not the only one that wonders about your enoughness.

New You Loading…

What do you do when you sense it's time for a new you; when the space you're in feels too small or uncomfortable, it's either grow or die, or you're thrust into a new atmosphere and it's either sink or swim? Do you need some strategies for facing these pivotal moments?

I am excited to have Giselle Jones as the first guest on my brand new podcast, Black Girl, Love Well. Join us as we talk about ways to embrace evolving and thrive in the interim between who you are and who you’re becoming.